☺ 10 Tips to Accept Yourself and Others ☺

It can be tough dealing with people. It can be difficult to see eye to eye, and it can be difficult not to take on the negative energy of other people. People are so complex and so amazing. When we learn to appreciate such things then we can learn to understand others and learn to all get along.  

These tips are useful tools to turn back to and keep with you throughout your day to keep calm, collected, and unfazed by people or situations you may find yourself in. It's all about balance, acceptance, and release; so that you can be happy and bad-ass all day long! 

It's okay to be Selfish. Take care of yourself first, first and foremost. If you don't take care of your own needs and happiness first then you will always be in second place in your heart and life, and that is not a happy place to live. You are awesome, and it's not only okay to think so but should also be encouraged! When you start taking care of yourself first then you will become happy with yourself, and when you become happy with yourself you become of use and help to others. So start with yourself.  

You can't please everyone. Some people are stubborn, some people are unappreciative, and some people just plain won't like you. It is not your job to please others. Your value is not based on someone else's opinion of you. As long as you are true to yourself and be the person you want to be then that is more than enough; and the people who truly matter will never ask you to compromise who you are, your values, or anything else about yourself. 

Not every person you meet is going to like you.  It doesn't matter who you are, there will always be people who absolutely adore you, and people that absolutely dislike you. Take any superhero for example; no matter how much good they did there is always someone who distrusts or dislikes them. Such is life. As already mentioned, it is not your job to please everyone around you. Let go of the notion that everyone should like you, because they won't. Just be yourself and you'll attract people into your life who love you, the rest are just shadows that don't matter in your life.  

Don't take thing personally. Most of the time people don't like others out of jealousy and unhappiness with themselves which in turn gets projected onto you. It may not be much fun sometimes being on the receiving end, but it's something that you are going to need to learn to deal with and let go of. It's not you, it's them. Keep doing your own thing and distance yourself from people who treat you poorly. 

Only you control your destiny. Your life is not dependent on others; your path is Your path and no one else's. No one can walk your path for you, though many will walk beside you, none will be the legs that make you walk. So walk your own path, seek your own destiny and don't rely on others. You control your life, your path, and therefor, your destiny! 

Let it go. Don't carry arguments or misunderstandings with you. Don't hold onto the negativity of others. Don't dwell on things that don't matter or that don't immediately affect your life. You don't need to hold the weight of others, or the world, on your shoulders, so don't. Let it go. Breathe out negativity so you can breathe in happiness and light. 

It's not always worth it to get the last word. Disagreements with others are inevitable; everyone has different perceptions, opinions, and values that will affect the way any situation or conversation is received. You are not always right. Even when you are actually right, you gain nothing from forcing it down someone else's throat, because if they don't want to hear it then they won't. It's not worth an argument, resentment, or negativity. Learn when to walk away. 

Don't waste your energy on negative people or situations. Again, you don't have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. So don't. You don't have to carry the negativity from others with you. You don't have to waste your time on any of it. This is something else you need to learn to walk away from. Distance yourself from negative people as much as you can, and if you are around them learn not to take on their negativity. Don't go looking for a fight or drama. 

You can only help people who are open to being helped. Trying to please everyone will not only completely exhaust you, but your efforts will not always be met with gratitude. Some people would rather stay miserable. That's not your problem. Help those who want to be helped; always have an open heart; let people know your door is always open; understand that not everyone is ready to be helped; and stop feeling the need to help everyone around you. 

Appreciate and respect differences in others. People are so multi-faceted and different and amazing. You are one of those amazing people. And so is everyone else. You are not always right, you are not always going to get along with certain people, you are not always going to have things in common with everyone. Respect and appreciate how different people are instead of feeling anything negative. The more you learn to practice this the more others will respect and appreciate your differences as well. 

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☺ The Balance to a Truly Healthy Happy Life ☺

Along the path to happiness, and manifesting (using the Law of Attraction) we often stumble and find it hard to maintain that positive level all the time. But there are some key points that many of us forget about, and that is that for happiness to truly flow freely and easily then you have to Feel Good. While choosing to be happy is indeed a choice that you do need to make in order to actually be happy, there are many things that will help your happy journey. Remember that everything in life is connected, and so if you want a truly happy life then everything within that life requires balance and love and attention. The key aspects of our lives that we should check on are our state of mind, our health (including diet and exercise), and general all-around balance in our active lives. 

Choose It!

Happiness is in your head, and it is certainly the biggest step you need to take to change your life. You always have a choice and that will be the key to unlocking all other aspects of your life. 

I'm not going to focus too much on this topic in this particular article because I have so many others that go into more in-depth details into tricks and ways to make your life happy and finding that within yourself. So go and explore my "Inspirational" posts for more tips there. ;)

Eat Well!

You have a choice to be happy and you have a choice to be healthy, but we often pay attention to one and forget the other yet they are both so closely connected. Being happy all the time is much harder when you are eating crappy foods. Remember a happy body is a happy mind. Food is fuel for your body and if you are giving your body junk food that it can't get proper energy or nutrients from then you are living your life running on empty all the time. And that is not a happy body. Your body and your brain cannot properly (or happily) function on junk food. If you are starving your body of what it needs then you are also starving your brain of what it needs. When you make healthy food choices then your body will feel wonderful, nourished, energetic, and alive! So how do you suppose your brain responds? It will also feel wonderful, nourished, energetic and alive! So many of our health problems today are a combination of too much stress and a poor diet. Making simple healthy changes can clear your mind and make you feel new again. If you want to be happy--which I assume you do--stop kidding yourself and get healthy! It's simple as that! 

Remember that everyone's body is different, especially when it comes to food. Allergy tests are a great idea, but they are not always completely accurate as well. My suggestion is to cut out junk food, cut out common allergens (wheat & dairy), and seriously cut back on (or eliminate completely) sugar and refined foods. Some people can't tolerate grains well, others can't tolerate beans or starch well. Cut out the common problem areas and then slowly reintroduce them to see your body's reaction. If you don't think food affects you at all, please stop denying it, food affects everyone, we just aren't often very in-tune with our body's reactions and needs. If this sounds like a lot of work, take it one step at a time. Just remember that if you want to be happy then this really isn't as hard as you think.  

Exercise!

Being healthy also means being active. Exercise can do wonders for depression and your energy levels. All the amazing health benefits of exercise (read about them here!) will transform your life onto another level of bliss. Happy will flow much easier because you are giving your body more of what it needs--health! 

People & Surroundings!

Health is great, but what about your surroundings? What about the people you interact with on a regular basis? People can be just as toxic as food, negativity can completely overwhelm our minds and good energy. Bad vibes are bad vibes. If someone is negative all the time then chances are they are going to rub off on you. Don't put yourself through that. I'm not talking about people who need to do a little venting, most of us are guilty for needing a little venting, I'm talking about the people that literally have nothing good to say ever and complain constantly. Being in that person's negative cloud regularly is damaging to your own mental health and can drain you dry and leave you feeling just plain blah. People certainly can change, but there is no reason to primarily surround yourself with those types of people. If you have those negative people in your life but you don't want to end the relationship then make sure you have plenty of super positive people in your life to make up for it and try only to see the negative people on an occasional basis. Place yourself in a positive environment and surround yourself with positive people! It really helps--and it helps when dealing with those negative people as well.

Balance!

Maybe you've got all those topics covered, in which case good for you! But maybe happiness still isn't coming so easily. So how's the balance in your day to day life? Are you a workaholic? Do you have an active social life? Too much social life? Do you take time for yourself? Time for reflection and self work? We live in a very busy society that teaches us to be on the go all the time, but if we are always on the go then our minds can't keep up. Work should not be your whole life. Making money to buy things you don't need shouldn't be your life. Your life should contain the perfect balance for your time. Make time for work, for play, for people and social interaction, and for down-time (meaning You time). Every day you should also take time for self-reflection and positive affirmations to keep you on track. Balance is key.  

Unresolved Problems!

The last major issue that might be getting in your way to unreasonable happiness is any unresolved issues. It is hard to be happy when you have something nagging at your subconscious all the time with issues that have not yet been dealt with. Don't carry around extra baggage when you don't need to. When stress arises, deal with it. When problems arise, solve them. Work through things! And don't kid yourself, if you need help then get it! We are not meant to go through this world alone, so seek out others who can help you. 

  

Again I will say that balance is everything. Your body being in harmony and healthy is everything. If you are struggling to find happiness then be sure to check what it is you are eating, how active you are, if there are unresolved issues, and how your day to day life is. 

Happiness is within everyone's grasp, so long as we are attentive and kind to our individual needs.

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