☺ Being Someone You're Not is a Waste of the Person You Are!☺

Pretending and trying to be something you're not, something that isn't true to You, is a waste of Who You actually Are. Be You! Because no one else is going to do it for you. 

Stop caring what others think or say and embrace every part of who you actually are. Be free and open to be You. 

Step out of your Comfort Zone and be yourself. It may sound like a strange concept that one would have to "step out of your comfort zone" to be one's self, but we have spent a lifetime wrapped up in a society that is constantly telling us What to be, How to Act, how not to act or be, and to basically Not be You. Conform, stay silent, stay sleeping, stay dumbed down. Be a clone, a robot, a drone. We are made to believe that acting out of accordance with what society tells us makes us "different" and that we should not be "different." This is positively silly because we are All different, we are Individuals; meaning we are not all the same. To try to fit into society's perfect little package and limited ideals is an insult to your own intelligence and Who you Are. Society actually teaches us to be unhappy, so that we try to fix our unhappiness with "things," and so I ask; who wants to be unhappy? Certainly not I and I don't think that you should want to be either. Act the way that makes you Happy. Let loose, step over that line society has drawn. Go ahead, be shameless, act "out of line." Be the Unique and Amazing Individual that you Are. And never sacrifice who that person is for anything or anyone. Don't let others tell you how to be, who to be, and who not to be. 

Don't let others tell you what you "should" be doing with your life and your future. Do the things that make you Happy. Live the life that You choose to live. Never be ashamed, embarrassed, shy, reluctant, or "held-back" to do all the things you want to do and act the way that you would like to act. Enjoy yourself, your time, everything that you do. Stop caring what others think, it really doesn't matter. Half of those people you will never even see again, so why do we allow their opinions or strange looks to deter us from our desired course of action and behaviours? Be free to act and do the things that you choose, from the small, seemingly insignificant, to the massive life-choices. Don't be afraid to be yourself and to go against the narrow-minded ideals that we've been taught is "normal" and "right." Never sacrifice who you are because someone else has a problem with it. Those who matter will love and accept every part of your quirky and unique personality. Those who have a problem with it are not worth the time of day. They are just miserable with their own conformity so pay them no mind and don't take it personally as they are just facing their own problems--or refusing to face their own problems. Live for Your Self. If you actually be the person that you Want to be then you would literally astonish yourself with the amazing potential that would open up in your life. You would actually be Living for You. And that is an amazing gift.  

All you have in this world is You, the Here & Now, and This Life you've been given. Embrace every part of it and live it the way that You desire. When you live this way then you are living to your fullest potential and in accordance to the natural laws of You. Don't waste another second of your time trying to be someone that you are not. 

Be foolish, shameless, free, happy. Be You right now. 

Never apologize to anyone for Who You Are. You have a beautiful soul, so feel good and feel comfortable Being Who You Are. Wanting to be someone you're not is a waste of the person you are. Give yourself the gift of being joyfully and unabashedly You. Be Yourself and No one else. You are an amazing gift to the world, don't limit yourself by not being You.

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☺ Inspirational: "Let Emotions Flow and then Let them Go" ☺

This is a life lesson that I believe to be incredibly valuable. I learned this from my favorite book "Way of the Peaceful Warrior." There is much of it that I cannot word better than the book itself so today's post is peppered with quotes from the book to aid in this teaching. 

Emotions are generally uncontrollable. They are natural feelings that come to us in particular circumstances. The problem lies in a few things; firstly, we allow ourselves to get attached to them, to dwell on them, to build them into an unnecessary frenzy. We feel bad or embarrassed over them. We question and over-think them. But there is nothing wrong with anger or any other emotion. We need to learn to allow our feelings to flow freely. 

Too often we hold onto a bad feeling; we carry it around with us all day and allow it to drain us. Let it Go!

Feel angry about something? Be angry. Upset and need to cry? Then cry. Feel how you feel, get it out of your system and go on with your day. There's no point on dwelling on something that has passed and gone. It is gone, so be done with it. 

"You don't need to control emotion. Emotions are natural, like passing weather. Sometimes it's fear, sometimes sorrow or anger. Emotions are not the problem. The key is to transform the energy of emotion into constructive action."

Babies are perfect teachers in this aspect. They don't dwell on their emotions and get attached to them. They don't wonder if what they are feeling is right or wrong, they don't wonder if they should cry when feeling upset. They express themselves freely, accepting their emotions completely. 

Once you're allowing your emotions to flow freely, there is a second problem that we should pay attention to, and that is how we Behave in accordance. We tend to have such an automatic, even taught, way of reacting to certain events and situations. What we tend to forget is that, while our emotions will just automatically flow, our Reactions are absolutely controllable. We just need to awaken ourselves to them, become aware, and consciously choose them.

One of my favorite examples of this is from "Way of the Peaceful Warrior"; the main character throws a fit when the rain ruins their picnic, while the "Peaceful Warriors" on the other hand laugh, dance, and roll around in the wet leaves and embrace the rain. 

The Peaceful Warriors don't allow the natural flow of life, the weather, or change to interfere with their moods. They allow their emotions to flow freely and to not have those automatic reactions to particular situations. They are in control of their behaviour. They consciously decide their behaviour. And they make the best of any situation, choosing to enjoy the natural flow of life instead of resisting it. 

Most of us all have these automatic predictable feelings and reactions to things. 

"Someone pokes you, you get irritable; you get insulted and you react with pride and anger; someone slips, you laugh." 

Most of us allow our lives to be determined by our thoughts, emotions, and past that accumulate to these predictable reactions. When you can become consciously aware of this, you can consciously create your own life. 

Find the balance between feeling and reacting, to allow yourself to feel what you need to and then let it go, while practicing to consciously choose how you are going to react and behave. And this practice will help you eventually choose and change those emotions too and those predictable behavioral reactions.

"To rid yourself of old patterns, focus all your energy not on struggling with the old, but on building the new." 

Another learned point is that "Anger can be a powerful tool to transform old habits and replace them with new ones. Fear and sorrow inhibit action; anger generates it." 

Using your emotions to benefit yourself and others, to learn & grow from the, is a powerful key. Use anger as a motivational tool instead of the self-pity sorry act. 

Ultimately, you will find the balance of controlling your own reactions and allowing your emotions to flow freely without attachment. To allow yourself to just Be. 

We are Human Beings, so Be and Feel. And Let Go. 

"Let Emotions flow and then let them Go."

And read "Way of the Peaceful Warrior" ;) 

  

Peace & Love

xo

~Bianca 

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