{life reflections}

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{life reflections}

 Weekly thoughts and rambles. A glimpse into my mind and world. 

These are entries that I might jot down in my Happy Diary; what happens when we put our fingers to the keyboard and allow our thoughts to flow uninhibited. Reflections from the soul. 

Reflections of life.  

I hope to leave you inspired. 

If you want to share your own reflections of the week please leave a link to your "life reflections" entry in the comments.

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You won't appreciate the sun without the rain. In this moment the outside world is doing both. On the emotional level of life perhaps it's always doing both. I mean think about it for a moment. In a single day we can experience such ups and downs in a matter of seconds apart. As if to remind us to breathe, to take a look around, to see that the world around us is a roller coaster of emotions and events and people all spinning around us at unpredictable speeds. It is true though. We can't appreciate the sun without a little rain. Getting stuck in the mud is the problem. Even though we can still look up to the skies and smile when the rays of sunshine do come along, inevitably we're still stuck in the mud. However getting out of the mud at our feet is as simple as taking one step. And then another. And another. Until the mud has dried from our feet and we can feel the warmth of the sun resonate through every fibre of our being. 

Have I lost you? I think I lost myself a little. But isn't that also part of life? Finding and rediscovering ourselves? ;)

Anyways. You can't have the good without a little sprinkle of bad. But we must keep moving and let the rolling ventures of our lives continue on, leading us to new heights and emotions and experiences. Such is life. Beautiful wonder-filled life. 

We must learn to become bendy. Yes, bendy. To life that is… although flexibility is also great for your body. ;) Adaptability to what life hands you, learning to go with the flow, to not resist, to welcome good things into your life and releasing the bad. To focus on the good. Always seeing and seeking the positive in any experience. And to love yourself. These are keys to life. The keys that will make all the other lessons easier to learn and all the tribulations easier to overcome. 

The road can be bumpy and applying these lessons may take time, but they should always be there for you to turn to, like a cheat sheet of life. What a wonderful cheat sheet. I wish they taught us things like this in school. Can you imagine what sort of brilliant world we would live in if they did?

[Anna Hrachovec]

Anyways. I'm like anyone, experiencing the ups and downs of life, applying the lessons, moving forward. I'm no superhuman. I fall down. Sometimes it's just a trip. Sometimes I fall down and stay down for a while wallowing in the cycle of self pity until I choose to pull myself out. Because it's always a choice. But despite the downward spirals there is something that is always reassuring to me. Simply look at how far you've come. This is what I do. I was a suicidal, self-harming, depressed girl for a long time. Today, even with the lows of life, I am strong and positive and always find a way to climb back up. You just have to be willing to put yourself into a positive place, to push your way out of the dark tunnels. You have to be willing to accept that you Deserve good in your life. And you have to be willing to make it happen. It's so much easier to wallow in self pity because it's practically been taught to us through insecure society and life. It takes work and determination to wake up in the morning and say "Today is going to be awesome!" and then go out and keep that mentality. But practice makes perfect and, by golly, is it ever worth giving yourself daily pep talks to reach a state of bliss and happiness. Abolishing words like "I can't" or telling yourself that a particular kind of life isn't possible for you. It's bullshit talk, that's what it is. It's self-defeating, self-pitying attitudes that will get you no where. You have a choice, every single second of every single day and I want you to stop putting yourself down. Because you deserve and CAN stand up and be awesome and blissfully happy. You can, you can, you can. Oh yes you can. So go do it. Now.  

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☺ How to Get Out of a Rut ☺

Through life's mysterious ups and downs, we sometimes get stuck. It happens to the best of us. This can feel incredibly frustrating if we've made huge progress in our lives. I mean, there we are skipping along the upbeat path of enlightened bliss with rainbows and unicorns when suddenly we accidentally fall into some pit of despair with foreboding shadows we don't understand. And then this new path seems to keep going in circles round and round again despite our attempts to get back to that place of magical rainbows and butterflies. The frustration continues in the same mannerism of the path, repeating itself. It's not always about a lack of will to simply hop right back onto the upbeat path of your desire. The truth is we may feel as if we've been doing everything Right, and that is when it's time to realize that we usually get stuck for a Reason. Perhaps we've forgotten one of our important lessons, or maybe we've met a challenge we didn't acknowledge or that we refuse to see.

But we can always change paths, it's just a matter of figuring out How, and what you need to do to make the leap.

Life will always have an uneven path. It will bring you to the top and drop you back down, and climb back up again. When we are well-equipped these become gentle slopes; we acknowledge, learn, and let pass along our journeys. But sometimes the slope turns into a steep slippery mudslide in which you may repeatedly try to climb up only to slip back down to the same place. Ah, that dark circle. 

Determination, self-work, and a consciousness and awareness to your Self and Life will be what gets you over that slope and back to riding unicorns with the sun shining on your face. Chances are you are neglecting something, whether it's love for yourself, a lesson learned, an unresolved issue (past or present), or lack of nurturing to your personal needs and emotions. Basically, you're path is rocky for one reason or another and it is up to you to figure it out. Life doesn't come with a manual, you have to get dirty and dig deeper sometimes so that the path ahead can be enjoyed to its fullest potential. Whatever it may be, take the time to Stop and figure it out. Don't continue to hopelessly scramble half way up the slope to fall back down again. Stop where you are, take a look around, and figure out what you need to make the climb back to the top.

We are all at different levels of the path of life. We all have different tools and lessons under our belts. Don't get discouraged, remember that that's all it is, a steep slope, and there is Always a way to climb it. 

Nurture your needs and emotions, work a little deeper, take the extra time to create the positive environment and attitude you require to make the climb. Accept the challenge openly instead of resisting it. Look for the lesson, for the missing piece. Resolve issues. Take the time and attention to figure it out. 

Pay extra attention to your Self. We often neglect our own needs or aren't being honest with our needs. So take extra time and attention with You. Feelings are powerful indicators of our problems so take the time to ask yourself how you are feeling. Ask questions, questions you are afraid to ask yourself. There is no point in letting them sit there unresolved when you could be blissfully enjoying life with a smile on your face all because you are too afraid to get dirty first. 

Quite often we've just lost our lack of motivation, our "umph!", our positive attitudes. In this case, it's time for a kick-starter to get motivated and get your mind on track again. Re-read "self-help" books or find new material to inspire you. Do whatever you need to do to get back that sparkle. 

But more often than not when we are stuck on these particular kinds of ruts it's something deeper. The problems are often the things we've forgotten about or neglected that are finally resurfacing, which is why these things can throw us off balance so easily when everything else in our lives seems to be going smoothly. This is also why it's important to resolve problems as soon as they arise. This is also why it's important to not neglect any past issues or traumas and work through them so you can move forward. 

Like I said, sometimes it may feel like we're doing everything right, but know that if you are in a rut there is something you are missing. This is Not something to get frustrated about. Frustration does not serve you. Ever. If you need help, ask for it, seek it out. Don't be afraid of what you might find, and don't be afraid of the answers. Life is a magical beautiful place when we learn to resist less and experience more. Let your emotions flow, let them be indicators, let them be your guide. Dig dig dig deeper. And remember that it usually feels worse right before it gets supremely better. We're talking three magical prancing unicorns instead of just one… and obviously everyone wants more unicorns in their lives right? ;)

Stay motivated, optimistic, and positive. And know there is always a way up. Always. 

If you need some more help with not getting overwhelmed by your problems then here's some more reading and homework for you:

☺ Learning to not get Overwhelmed ☺ 

☺ What's Holding You Back? You! ☺ 

Love you all my lovely lovely unicorn riders! 

…too much unicorn talk? Okay, well I love you and I know that you are almighty and amazing and you can conquer all of your darkest and deepest problems. Persevere and remember to smile!        

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