Thursday, May 16, 2013

☺ Steps to Self Care ☺

It's easy to fall apart. It's easy to not love yourself and to feel as if things are always going wrong. It's also easy to fall back into bad habits when things get tough. If you want to be happy, to feel good every single day, then here is your guide to Self-Care: 

Stop Worrying. Stop over thinking so much or you'll create problems that aren't even there. Don't think, don't wonder, don't imagine, don't obsess. Just breathe and have faith that everything will work out for the best. If you do this then it will. Most of our problems are created by our own minds, so learn to let go, allow things to pass, and stay positive and focussed on the joy of the moment. It won't steer you wrong. 

Stop Complaining. Complaining is our worse habit. Break it. It attracts more and more negative things and keeps you in the cycle of unhappiness and stress. Every time you catch yourself complaining replace those words with ones of positivity. Choose to talk more about your joys. Choose to talk about the things you're grateful for. Talk about the things that enrich your life. As a general rule; for every complaint, list ten things you're grateful for instead. 

Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth. You are an amazing person! Stop being concerned about whether or not you are living up to someone else's expectations. Your value is not based on anyone else's thoughts or opinions, it is based on how You see yourself. So Embrace your uniqueness, your loveliness, your abilities and talents. Be Happy with yourself inside and out. In the end only your own opinion of yourself is what matters, so make it positive and love yourself and be the person you want to be. Appreciate yourself and your path will be lighter. 

Love Who You are. And accept that you are worthy of all goods things. Insecurities are perhaps our biggest downfall. They make us feel unworthy in relationships. They make us feel insecure in our jobs, our lives, our actions. They make us feel uncomfortable simply by being ourselves and living in our own skin. Drop those fears, insecurities and feelings of self worth. You Are Worthy! You are brilliant! You are amazing! Remind yourself every single day that you are worthy of good things, that you are fantastic, that people love you and want to be around you. Make it your daily mantra. Fall in love with yourself. Write down every day things you love about yourself. Focus on love for yourself every single day, every single minute. Learn to love yourself and others will too. 

Be Yourself. There is no wrong or right way of being yourself. You are You. Uniquely, wonderfully you. You have amazing qualities, abilities, and talents unique to you. There are so many different qualities people can have, and you are a vessel of your own combination of these qualities that makes you uniquely you. You may be completely different than one person and then share interests with another. Discover yourself. Be Yourself and never be ashamed of whatever that might be. Because when you learn to be yourself you will attract other like-minded people and your relationships will become more fulfilling and real. 

Live Your Life. Your life is your own. Your own beautifully unique and fantastic life that no one else can decide for you. We are all different and what is right for one person may not be right for another; so stop allowing someone else's opinions dictate Your Life. Don't worry about what people think. Don't concern yourself with what other people are doing. There is no "right" way, there is only your own way because it is Your Life. You don't need to follow the flock, you should be setting yourself free and following your own passions. Chase your own dreams, live your own life. 

Don't be afraid of Failure. Make mistakes, embrace failures. If you never try you'll never know, you'll never learn, and you'll never grow. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone. So stop trying to avoid making such mistakes or you'll risk missing out on your own potential and your own life. Own your mistakes, chase your mistakes, learn and grow from your mistakes. And try try again.  

Face your Troubles. When we run from our problems, they consume us, they chase us, they become embedded incessantly in our minds never to let go. When we stand up and face our troubles then we place ourselves in the position to overcome, learn from, and move on from those problems. No more hiding or running; Stand up and face them. 

Let go of what you Can't Control. Often we are people pleasers. We want to make everything okay. We throw ourselves into the middle of some pretty bad situations because we think we can help or change a person. I'm not saying helping people is bad, in fact it's great. But what is bad is disregarding your own self care. You can't change people, they have to want to change themselves. And you can't control everything and certainly not certain situations. The best way to help is to be happy and calm and accept when you can or cannot help. And when you cannot help then learn to take a step back and let go instead of carrying that weight with you. 

Avoid Drama and Negativity as much as Possible. Again, stop throwing yourself into the middle of some ordeal. Often we do this because it's actually a subconscious addiction, an old habit in which we feel the need to self harm due to habit and lack of self-worth. So, again, you cannot change or control people. Surrounding yourself with such drama or negativity doesn't help them and it doesn't help you. It's more than okay to step away. Just be happy, be yourself, keep smiling and you'll help them in the biggest way by being an inspiration for them to strive for. 

Undo Self Harm. Many people have self-destructive habits we turn to when things get tough. Some people drink, some do drugs, others have eating disorders, others cut themselves or inflict self harm. These are all negative qualities that we turn to when we are down. They become habit. It isn't usually as simple as just stopping, and in thinking so we usually get down on ourselves when we can't "just stop." Recognize the self-destructive habit and then pay attention to what things trigger it. The only way to overcome it is to conquer it, to work through the issues that make you turn to it. Just remember; you cannot fully love yourself (and therefor fully be happy) if you continue to harm yourself, as this is simply not a loving act. Learn to love yourself and you will never want to harm yourself again. 

Trust Your Heart. If something feels wrong, don't do it. If something doesn't resonate with you, don't do it. If you get negative yucky vibes from someone, don't be around that person. Your heart knows things your head can't always understand. Learn to trust your instincts and listen to your feelings. Trust and follow your heart. 

Depend on Yourself for Happiness. Your happiness is not dependent on others. Your happiness isn't by chance, it's a choice you have to make. Others cannot make you happy. Things cannot make you happy. They may contribute to momentary joy, but not to everlasting happiness. You are the master of your fate. You are the decider. You must choose to wake up every day with a smile, to see the good, to seek the positive, and to embrace the joys of your own being and your own life. Happiness is within your grasp. You decide.

Own your life, own your actions, your words, your beautiful personality. Stay Positive and keep learning and growing and self-discovering. 

Much Love! 


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  1. I so needed this reminder this week, thank you so much, Bianca!

  2. I love this list...very helpful tips! This blog is such a breath of fresh air!

    ♥ C.A.


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